tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4854619655125512358.post2476757502143352647..comments2023-05-05T03:34:08.054-07:00Comments on Litmocracy: I Like Endangering My ChildrenDave Scotesehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14913120983331583889noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4854619655125512358.post-56396280979006192562014-05-19T14:02:11.669-07:002014-05-19T14:02:11.669-07:00Do not figure out what matters to them and provide...Do not figure out what matters to them and provide it only when they walk to it--that is an attempt to control that will backfire. But DO always stand up for yourself, demand your needs be met. When a situation makes us miserable we can flee, which could work for you, or you can focus on clear communication (NVC) about your needs. Express yourself and get your needs met. Make it about you. "I love you and I support your desire to be in your wheel chair, but it makes me too depressed so I cannot be around you right now. I cannot give you a ride home from school as it goes against my own moral principles. I do not want to control you, I want you to make your own choices, but I HAVE to take care of myself. Never carry your children if you don't want to. They are allowed to be sad. You can be with them and stay connected with them when they are sad. You still don't have to carry them. This is akin to any parent dealing with a drug addict. You cannot save an addict. He can only save himself. But you do not have to torture yourself. Have you read Non Violent Communication?From Roslyn,https://www.blogger.com/profile/14628867232132122965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4854619655125512358.post-26340477160430694102014-05-09T18:32:38.896-07:002014-05-09T18:32:38.896-07:00Stop whining and be a good teacher/parent/role mod...Stop whining and be a good teacher/parent/role model. You can not make them walk, but you can stop enabling them. Figure out what matters to them and provide it only when they walk to it. And if they are so pathetic that nothing matters to them, then throw them in the middle of a large body of water.A Roohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12285047430821580884noreply@blogger.com